Choosing Love Within our Human Family

A few days ago in one of my favorite places in the world, New York City, yet another terrorist attack occurred. Sayfullo Saipov, a 29-year-old immigrant from Uzbekistan, drove a rental truck for nearly a mile down a popular bike-only path in lower Manhattan on Tuesday, killing eight people in the shadow of the World Trade Center and then shouting, “Allahu Akbar.” This phrase translates to “God is greater” and they are also the opening words of the Adhan (Islamic call to prayer) and is also often used in approval in the same way Christians say “Amen”.

My heart is shattered at the thought of innocent lives being taken in the name of god. My god, higher power, the universe (whatever you choose to call it) embodies pure love, empathy, and compassion. I have never fully understood why people of many different religions choose to ignore the main message of love in their holy books and teachings and instead choose to worship the scriptures or passages that envoke prejudice, hate and even murder.

I could dig deep into each of the main religious books and teachings and dissect how or where the source of all of this fear and hatred derives from, but instead I would like to try and enlighten you today and provide you with a new perspective on the value of a life, a deeper appreciation for our consciousness, and what it means to be human, and be a part of our infinitely beautiful human family.

Firstly, let’s discuss the odds of you even being you, being here, conscious and alive, reading this post. Scientists originally estimated that the probability of your being born at about one in 400 trillion. However, if you do the math you will see that this number is much too small.

Firstly, in order for you to be born, your parents had to meet. The chances of this happening are about 1 in 20,000. The chance of this exact pair reproducing is about 1 in 2000. (Now this is where your mind is going to be blown.) The chances of the correct sperm and egg pair meeting, which creates “you” is about 1 in 400 quadrillions, of course, a different combination could meet, but you would be an entirely different human, with entirely different set of DNA, thoughts, and identity. However, in order for your parents to have created you, each one of their ancestors had to successfully reproduce, the probability of this happening is 1 in 10^45,000. This is where the numbers become so large, there aren’t even words for them anymore.

Overall, the probability of you being born is about 1 in 10^2,685,000! As a comparison, the approximate number of atoms in the known universe is 10^80. So what’s the probability of your being born? It’s the probability of 2.5 million people getting together (about the population of San Diego) each to play a game of dice with trillion-sided dice. They each roll the dice, and they all come up the exact same number, say, 550,343,279,001.

A miracle can be defined as an event that is so unlikely as to be almost impossible. By that definition, I’ve just proven that you are a miracle. Being alive and conscious is a miracle. Being human is a miracle.

Where we are born, however, makes up almost all of what we know as life. One thing I will never understand about humans is the dividers we choose to put in between us and someone else. When we meet someone of a different religion, or from a different country, or who speaks a different language, our minds are hardwired to start looking for the differences, which, therefore, limits connection before it can even begin. What needs to be understood is that for every difference you feel you have with another human, there are billions of similarities that you are simply choosing to ignore. A soul is not tied to any country or language, a soul does not even get to make the decision of what body becomes theirs. After all, our bodies are simply tools for our soul to be able to experience our world. Most of what we know or believe comes down to how or where we were raised, which we all know, we, unfortunately, cannot choose. So why are we still choosing violence and hatred towards people who are so “different” to us when in reality, most of your differences stem purely from the location, time, and circumstance of your birth.

I personally believe most humans are inherently good, they will choose what they believe is right and most people do not wish to cause harm to others intentionally, only when threatened. Fear is ultimately the source of all prejudice, fear, and hatred in the world. (however, this is an entirely different topic)

The source for most violence and war over the course of human history is religion. The tiniest of differences in details between teachings and holy writings is what is responsible for the slaughter of billions of humans over the centuries. However, one thing that is never taught, is that all of the major world’s religion at one time were one. Humans were just trying to make sense of all of our Earth’s vast mysteries. They did not have science or math to explain why the river flooded and their crops were ruined, or why the tides of the ocean go back and forth, or to tell them what the sun or moon is. This seed of religion was planted, and as it grew, it branched off in many different directions, due to many misinterpretations, misunderstandings, and varying beliefs. However, it all came from one seed. The seed of human curiosity and faith. A tool originally intended to help us navigate our physical world, which we now use to help us navigate the spiritual world. We are all busy fighting over who was the real son of god, messiah, prophet, etc. However, all of these figures came to deliver to us a message of peace and love, who really cares who the messenger was, as long as we get the message, right? Whatever your beliefs are, as long as they are rooted in love, faith, and acceptance, there is no need to fight over the details if you agree with the main idea.

“Love is my religion, kindness is my prayer, forgiveness is my temple, and peace is my abode.”
― Debasish Mridha

As our world becomes more overpopulated, with technology developing at a rate that psychologists believe is too quick for our brains too even keep up with, as machines replace the human touch, we have never experienced a time where we feel so replaceable. Competition is deeply ingrained in us by society from a very young age. We have been trained to think of ourselves first, our families first, and others last. The concept that very few people seem to grasp is that we are all so deeply connected.


This is our planet, earth. This is where we are born, where we learn and grow, where we will experience every feeling, thought, and emotion that we will ever have. This is where we will die. (most likely) All aspects of human consciousness are confined to this very lonely small blue oasis, peacefully floating through infinite black space. From this perspective, you would never be able to tell that down there, billions of people suffer every day, die every day, from harm done by their own species.

milky way

This is the milky way galaxy, home to 100 billion planets. None of which we have ever been able to find signs of life.  Our home, the Earth is just another speck of dust in this giant, swirling whirlpool of stars and planets. A black hole rests at the center our galaxy, the universe’s tool to reclaim what it originally created.  There are infinite galaxies and planets in our universe and we as humans can’t even pretend to understand the interworkings of the universe and what the origin or purpose for all of this is. I understand some of this may be quite difficult to wrap your head around, my main point in all of this is the convey how truly alone we are in the grand scheme of the universe.

Imagine if you were stranded on an island with other people, would you hurt them, kill them? No of course not, you would need each other to survive and thrive. Your best hope would be to work together. Our earth is no different, just a deserted island in a sea of black space, we have to stick together or we may all drown. If we all come together and understand how deeply our roots connect and how powerful the force of love is, we could be infinitely great. We could end suffering for all members of our human family and start to focus on life’s more important questions, instead of clouding our eyes and minds with greed, violence, and hatred. Our world is at a tipping point. If we choose love and empathy, our power is limitless, our knowledge and power could expand and grow in ways we never knew possible. However, if we continue down the path of division, greed, and hatred, our suffering will never end, for anyone. We are all a family, a human family, and we must choose love, it is the only answer.

Love and acceptance is a choice and a daily practice. The universe gives you opportunities every single day to help others and love others. However, it also gives us opportunities to be prejudice, unkind, and put up walls in between us and everyone else. Choose to embrace your higher self, and try your best to actively make your decisions while in your higher state of thinking. Just as with any practice, it will start to become easier, and more natural. Eventually, everything you say, think, and do will be filled with the purest form of love and high energy. This is what it means to be your higher self. This is what it means to be truly human.

I note the obvious differences
in the human family.
Some of us are serious,
some thrive on comedy.

Some declare their lives are lived
as true profundity,
and others claim they really live
the real reality.

The variety of our skin tones
can confuse, bemuse, delight,
brown and pink and beige and purple,
tan and blue and white.

I’ve sailed upon the seven seas
and stopped in every land,
I’ve seen the wonders of the world
not yet one common man.

I know ten thousand women
called Jane and Mary Jane,
but I’ve not seen any two
who really were the same.

Mirror twins are different
although their features jibe,
and lovers think quite different thoughts
while lying side by side.

We love and lose in China,
we weep on England’s moors,
and laugh and moan in Guinea,
and thrive on Spanish shores.

We seek success in Finland,
are born and die in Maine.
In minor ways we differ,
in major we’re the same.

I note the obvious differences
between each sort and type,
but we are more alike, my friends,
than we are unalike.

We are more alike, my friends,
than we are unalike.

We are more alike, my friends,
than we are unalike.

– Maya Angelou

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